If your child is thinking about leaving college or sixth form, it can be difficult to know what to say or how best to support them.
Starting college or sixth form can feel like a big step and some learners may question their decision, particularly during the first few weeks and months.
Feeling overwhelmed, struggling with coursework, worrying about money or wondering whether a course is right for them does not automatically mean leaving is the best option.
For many parents, it can be difficult to know how best to support their child as they consider their options and decide what to do next.
Claire O’Brien, a careers adviser at Careers Wales, shares seven practical ways parents can help their child to work through their concerns and make an informed decision.
1. Listen first
If your child says they’re thinking about leaving, try to understand what’s behind those feelings. Is the course different from what they expected? Are they struggling with the workload or the social demands of college? Are things outside of their course affecting how they feel?
Giving them the space to talk openly can help them feel supported and may reveal solutions that haven’t yet been considered.
2. Remember that doubt is normal
The move from school to college or sixth form can be a big adjustment. A new environment, different teaching styles, new people, increased independence and higher expectations can all take time to get used to.
Many young people experience periods of uncertainty before settling into their course and routine.
3. Help them identify the issue
A young person may say they want to leave, but the course itself may not be the problem.
They could be struggling with confidence, finances, travel, friendships, workload, family responsibilities or their mental wellbeing. Understanding the root cause can help identify the right support.
4. Reassure them that they have others for support
They do not have to work through challenges alone.
Tutors, student support teams, careers advisers and wellbeing services can often provide practical help, reassurance or alternative options that your child may not be aware of.
5. Explore the alternatives together
Leaving a course is often not the only option.
Depending on the circumstances, there may be opportunities to change course, access additional support, consider a different learning route or explore other pathways that better suit their interests and goals. The important thing is to understand all the options before making a decision.
6. Focus on their long-term goals
When a young person is stressed or unhappy, it’s easy to focus on the immediate problem.
Talking about their future ambitions can help put decisions into context. Consider how different options might support their longer-term education, training or career plans. This can help them make a more informed choice rather than a rushed one.
7. Encourage them to seek further support
Often an impartial conversation can make all the difference.
A careers adviser can help young people explore their concerns, understand their options and make confident decisions about what to do next. Support is available in person, by phone or online.
And lastly, remember: there is no need to rush such an important decision. Taking time to talk through concerns, seek support and explore all the available options can help a young person understand what each choice could mean and decide on the best way forward for them.
For more information on free and impartial careers support available, contact Careers Wales.
